shoutout out to all my buddies who have shitty dads or no dads at all this father’s day, you turned out just great regardless, you can’t choose your family and you don’t deserve any negativity from them,and you don’t deserve backlash or guilt-tripping for cutting them out of your life if that’s what you need/ed to do and i love you all
my dads kind of mildly shitty we dont really have a relationship even though we see each other. my brothers a fucking deadbeat dad and i was really pissed that i had to see him today.
most of my friends have either terrible relationships with their dads or their dads are dead. both of my best friends lost their dads in the last few years so this day now just reminds me of their sadness and loss. last year i spent it with my bestie rather than my dad and im sad i couldnt see her today, but she was with her mom at least.
my other best friend has a 1 year old daughter whos father was happy to spend fathers day with her last year when she was a baby but apparently has gotten over being a dad in the last year because he didnt do shit. it just sucks.
my dad said today that restaurants and stuff do about half the business for fathers day than they do for mothers day. he was like hm wonder why that is. i was just SEETHING because duh… look at my fucking brother sitting right there. he has 3 kids that we know of and hes not supporting any of them at all. he had a relationship with his daughter for about a year or two and then also seemed to “get over it” and now he doesnt see her. its a lot easier for a guy to come and go or decide not to be a parent. i know there are shitty moms too who abandon or neglect their kids but its like a million times more likely for a father. it sucks. i dont understand how you can knowlingly affect another persons life so drastically as people do when they choose not to raise their child. or at least be a presence in their life.
im not even going to get into like, every guy ive ever dated who was abused in some way by their father. i dont really miss holidays with my exs family having to pretend to be nice knowing this asshole used to beat my boyfriend constantly.
so yeah…. my props and good vibes to everyone dealing with those feelings today for whatever reason. whether you miss a father who’s deceased or you cut ties with one who was not good to you, im sorry if you feel shitty today. well, where i am its over so we can all move on :)